I've found on my journey that most people I meet up with talk about the material part of their life or business much more openly and readily than the emotional piece of it.
Why is that, do you suppose?
Well, for me, it's generally because I'm afraid to go deep within myself -- I may not like what I find there or, perhaps, my inner self will make me do something I don't want -- or unprepared -- to do.
After a recent conversation with a colleague, I fell silent when asked the question, "Why aren't you getting in front of your audience?" That was the coach coming out and I didn't like to be cornered one bit. But it was a question that had been gnawing away in the back of my mind for a few weeks.
My colleague said, "You're not answering the question. When will you get out there in front of your audience?"
I responded, "If I say the answer, it obligates me to carry out the actions." (This is what I get learning about intention and being in integrity -- with myself!!)
No better time than the present to confront my fear and answer that $64,000 question. (You old timers will know what I mean by that.)
The first "hit" that came up was I have a problem with my image; someone in the past year or so commented on how I needed an updated look, and that short comment made a lasting impression. The counter-attack, of course, is I look just fine. In fact, I am drop-dead-gorgeous when all gussied up to the nines. Plus, when in front of a crowd my face lights up with smiles all around.
Check that one off the list.
Next "hit" is I've never formally presented my program before. The counter-attack on this self-imposed limitation is it's poppycock! Of course I've formally giving my presentation, the first being in front of an audience of over 125 attendees! And I've talked about it ever since.
So, just with those two thoughts derailed, I pulled out a piece of paper and wrote the next day's to-do list:
Post Office (to mail a package to my sister), church, and then the unemployment office to begin sharing what I know on how to get through job loss and share that process.
Opportunities bound and doors open. I have been taught and teach that you don't have to go through life alone -- I'm there right alongside you. I also have others willing to be by my side; they are my Dream Team. The more open and willing we are to take risks, and the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward that is received.
Look within to find the answers to your most burning questions. Is it scary? You bet! But if you want to get ahead in this world, if you have a dream or two to accomplish, if you want a better life for you and your family, get to the root of the problem and then do what you have to do in order not to be afraid to go there again.
Get a good and trusted friend, coach, mentor, anyone who can help you feel safe in reaching deeply within the vast knowledge within you. It will be well worth the trip.
Honesty is the best policy -- especially when it's with yourself.
"A friend, coach, or mentor for accountability can be the difference between failure and success!" ~Peggy Lee Hanson
(Hey! Why not quote myself? I've said some pretty good stuff!)
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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