Last night I went to bed with the excitement of all I planned to do today.
My morning routine consists of warming up the computer, powering up the Keurig, and making a bite to eat after checking my email and a few other accounts I daily keep tabs on. One of those accounts happens to be Facebook.
I know, I know. You're not supposed to get distracted so early in the day. But what happens next is so eerie that I now know I was sent to Facebook earlier than my usual for a very specific reason.
The notifications sent me to Michelle Shaeffer's post of "go big or go home." I could access the webpage, however, it immediately moved to a Yahoo! page, an email address I had not used or looked at for nearly a year and it would not let me view Michelle's post no matter what I did. So, I heeded the Universe's message and clicked on the mail icon. That inbox had 1,083 new emails, mostly spam, probably due to unsubscribing to a few sites.
Continuing to scroll through the emails, one popped up from a friend of mine who I hadn't heard from in a very long time.
If you attended Adam Urbanski's October 2011 Overnight Authority event, you heard me say I closed a door. Apparently my friend closed the adjoining door long before I had. As sad as this is, we are now free of the relationship that weighed us down and kept us from moving forward.
Don't get me wrong; the friendship was the best thing for us both, coming along when we needed each other; however, we've outgrown -- or better yet -- we've grown in relationship to ourselves and what we need out of our own lives -- separately.
When the pain of the loss hit full throttle today, I reviewed my own five steps of getting through a transitional period. If you want to learn how to "fill-in-the-blank," make certain the person you learn from uses their own process they developed -- consistently and successfully!
The last step in my process is to take action -- which should be the last and most repeatable step in any process; I reached out to a fellow Dream Coach® to lean on for a moment and also to get first-thoughts on a movie I created. This was the response:
"I saw this really cool movie this morning from this gal who's an expert at navigating through those tough times (she calls them transitions) we seem to get thrown into...in this movie, she talks about doing the thing you can't imagine doing when you find yourself in the middle of the mess--DREAM! Yep, she says to create, dream, focus on fun and pleasant things. She says that then your body can relax, you can access the belief and confidence within to know that you will survive the worst of whatever the situation you find yourself in.
"Pretty smart and savvy, gal!! ;-) You should check out her work..."
This made me laugh through even more tears, but I was able to move away from the pain and set my sights on the gain. It worked. How do I know for certain? Because I'm writing!
What is holding you back from taking a step forward? What pain, if lifted, could you gain from? How do you move through your transitions?
“Life changes fast, ... Life changes in the instant. You sit down to dinner and life as you know it ends.” ~Joan Didion
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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