For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been upbeat and happy – most of the time. When I wasn’t, it seemed I was living at the other end of the spectrum where it was very dark and cold. But back to the positive.
How large of an affirmative nugget do you need to pull you out of your dread?
Here are a few examples that occurred in my life to help you grasp the concept.
- When I didn’t get awarded the position as a union employee that I thought I deserved, I filed a grievance. The situation became grossly nasty between the union leaders and my manager. Even though I felt I was wronged, I could see that I would not win the case. So, I began to think of all the positive things, such as I’m still working, and soon the momentum of optimism returned.
- When I knew layoffs were coming due to the merger with Delta (I worked for Northwest Airlines), I also knew that I had to prepare myself that I could be one of them. So, I began to think of all the positive things if I were to be laid off or let go, such as being able to now do what I want and love to do. If I stayed with the airline, I’d be happy; if I was one of the many to go, I’d still be happy.
- When finances were tough, especially with neither me nor my husband working, finding the tiny golden nugget of positivity made it possible to keep going. The golden nugget has simply been our love for each other, or the kids; it’s been thoughts, such as “situation temporary”; and the nuggets have also consisted of I’m alive and well; I have my health: I have my two hands and my brain; we’ll be fine; I’ll be fine.
I recently presented a speech entitled, “Thrown into a Vision,” where I talked about how we can be thrust into an unwanted situation. Yet, out of that negative and challenging time, new awareness can happen; a vision of what our life can be like; all we have to do is hold that golden nugget of positivity in our hands and focus on it whenever the doldrums and sadness begins to overtake and overwhelm us. Even the tiniest nugget works.
How big is your golden nugget? How will you use it from now on? Will you share this nugget of inspiration with others?
“The whole idea of motivation is a trap. Forget motivation. Just do it. Exercise, lose weight, test your blood sugar, or whatever. Do it without motivation. And then, guess what? After you start doing the thing, that's when the motivation comes and makes it easy for you to keep on doing it.” ~ John C. Maxwell
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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