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Day 21 – Pause and Reflect (Part 2 - cause & effect)

During the time of taking this course, I am building an in-person women’s network within my community. The sheer brilliance of taking something out of nothing, or rather, an idea—or is it original substance—and seeing it unfold much as is described in Mr. Wattles writings is astonishing!

You see, I dreamed of leading workshops across the country and, perhaps, abroad; however, not in my own backyard. But when opportunity knocks, takes me by the hand, and leads me to the edge of the cliff, I tend to jump.

I rarely, if ever, think of falling or drowning. I think of how to soar, flying to new heights never before reached!

Thoughts immediately change into strategies that occupy my mind. I begin to take action. I learn more of what I must do to accomplish this great feat. I take each corner and edge piece to connect the outer perimeter, to give me the outline from which the interior of the puzzle pieces will be interlocked.

Nancy Matthews, The Visionary with Guts, developed a course, Receive Your Riches, based on the path she followed while putting The Science of Getting Rich into action. You are reading my journalism assignment.

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PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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I’ve taken a few days off to spend quality time with family so will be catching up on multiple posts for a day or two. Even though time was spent away from writing, the mind and thoughts never shut down.

The posts shared April 2013 are inspired from Nancy Matthew’s course, Receive Your Riches, based on the path she followed while putting The Science of Getting Rich into action.

Day 7 - Reflections Part 2
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Because I’ve been away and not totally keeping focused on The Science of Getting Rich, I feel depleted and dejected.

What I must remember here is that it is just that – only a feeling.

I can change how I feel at any given moment. With merely a change in my thought, I now feel hopeful and energized. You may ask how that could be done ever so quickly.

I’ve learned how to process, how to approach, the negative parts that bubble up inside. I acknowledge my feelings and take a quick poll around how they came into being. Much of the time, the answer is the same: inaction.

I didn’t take time out first thing in the morning or the last thing at night before heading to bed to take a few moments to reflect on the day and to journal those thoughts.

But what I had done was to write down in my own personal shorthand, the ideas and inspiration that came to me while away from the normal writing. With this simple recognition I was in a positive state of mind once again.

So simple.

You have choices every waking moment. Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings. Quickly discern their meaning, and then find the one encouraging thought that moves you forward.

To your success,
PeggyLee

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PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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I’m a big proponent of using positive language, upbeat words, and Pollyanna-like actions and games much like her Glad Game.

And yet, I fall victim to the negative prospects, the why-aren’t-things-happening-the-way-I-want, the feeling-sorry-for-myself, and why-bother attitude. I kept saying to myself and to others, “I’m tired,” and they either concurred with their own stories or validate mine.

I had been sick over the New Year holiday which contributed to my demise. The fact is I had been tired, but the counterpoint of that fact is that I did nothing about it—I stayed tired. I gave myself permission to take the time necessary to get better. I do teach this to my clients, yet I insist on more structure.  Now it’s time to turn that structure back to me!

Here’s how you can be sure to stay awake, alert, and alive each and every day in your life, your business, your relationships.

1. Set an alarm clock so you don’t oversleep or go past your self-imposed time.
2. Setting your language barometer is just as important—it may be the preventive medicine you need to keep you from oversleeping in the first place. Go ahead; keep up with Pollyanna!
3. Set your thermostat to HOT! Keep that passion up if you’ve lost sight of it; re-examine what brought you to your work in the first place. If you need to re-evaluate, then do so, but keep the mercury at peak levels!

I have since woken up from my slumber. I’ve found renewed energy to keep me going. I do believe that I needed to have and experience this time to become more aware of my language and how quickly it can lead me to the quicksand pit.

If you continually say to yourself that you’re tired, you’re sick, things just aren’t working out for you, I highly encourage you to exchange the negative for the positive thinking. No, just being positive won’t bring immediate riches, but it will change your life!

Take it from me! At least try it for a couple days, won’t you? Remove all negative thoughts and words. Let me know how it goes. I am most interested in your results --- and happiness!

To your success,
PeggyLee

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PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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Another early morning…. I cannot get back to sleep because of worry—it’s those darned words that keep swimming around in my head! EGADS!

But I’m grateful the words are not what’s keeping many others up night, worrying about finances or their kids or other relationships (albeit been-there-done-that!).

I’m thinking of blog posts, email campaigns, and other copy I need to write so that I can assist my constituents in reaching and fulfilling their dreams and goals, their wishes; so they, too, can stop the worry of finances, job loss (seen and unforeseen), and failed relationships.

I’m thinking of working one-on-one again with my long term mentor over the next six months and the success and abundance; yet, being a bit scared and apprehensive about the enormity and responsibility of true success.

I’m thinking of why is it that I can’t get back to sleep after 3am; I’m certainly tired enough still. I tried saying the mantra my mind is quiet….and I am now in Silence, but that didn’t work this morning!

So here I am at 3:45am writing out my thoughts as they come through. Sometimes, though, really deep and poignant thoughts do appear at this time of the morning; however, I feel they escape me this awakening.

Random thoughts disperse ….. to you I bid a good morning.

To your success,
PeggyLee

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PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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And yet, another conversation revolving around transitioning though a broken relationship.

A friend recently approached me concerning how to handle a break-up. No, not of the romantic kind, still with someone who has greatly touched his heart. He came to me because I had the exact same break-up with the exact same person—it was a business relationship.

I’m sorry that any of us have to go through the process of separation. Yet, in the end you will realize there are specific reasons why it happened.

In getting over another long-term and very deep friendship I had to write my third book, The Acceptance Factor: To Serenity and Beyond. It’s a quick read—45 minutes, perhaps—longer if you complete the exercises.  But, as one reader told me, it’s spot on, yet so simple.

People who inspire us, who we learn from, who helps us to reach the very depths and recesses of our soul are like a fine liqueur: bold and beautiful; and as you drink in the elixir a warming comes over your body that feels so good; the senses are immediately awakened and you become high on the fumes that raise you up to a new height where no one has ever taken you before!

But then, the inevitable occurs. You have learned as much as you can from each other and it’s time to part, to go your separate ways, walking the path to brilliance with your new-found knowledge and tools.

“How do you do it? How do you get to the place of calm and peace,” my friend asked.

Take stock. Look at what you’ve gained, how strong you’ve become. Look at how many people have benefited from your skills and knowledge, all from knowing and working this person!

See all the possibilities. What can you do with the skills and knowledge learned? How can you help someone else that’s going through what you are?

Accentuate the positive.  What is going on in your life that is good and noble? Come back to that as often as needed. Increase the positive words used throughout the day. Change up your negative thoughts concerning a subject (or this one!) and find the good. Example: If I hadn’t learned from so-and-so how to deal with those inside voices, I wouldn’t be the sane person I am today.  OR Thank you, for the workshop where I wrote this beautiful poem about my dad.

Take action. This is what I call the step to end all steps. By taking action, even the tiniest of actions, you move forward toward the goal you seek. Write out your list of assets; increase the positivity in your thoughts and language. Rinse and repeat

What I’d also like to share with you is that you are not alone in your thoughts or feelings; and that you are loved and held. Other thoughts that helped me along the way, as you’ll discover in my book about acceptance, is that this separation must occur if we are to continue with our personal and inner growth. Thinking of this change or transition transforms it into the natural progression that it truly and sweetly is.

During the process of finding out what went wrong with my deep and close friendships, I realized that we’d outgrown each other. I no longer need them and they no longer need me. As simple as this sounds, the pain and the hurt takes a long time to evaporate.

But by using and repeating that mantra as often as needed, it has made me stronger to step away from the relationship’s hurt and frustrations.

To be honest, you will have months of cleansing to do, but they will be the best and most freedom-filled days you’ve experienced in a long, long time. Journal. Keep reaching out to those who’ve been there, done that, and who’ve come out the other side happier, healthier, and far richer than any dollar amount in the bank could ever make you.

What I see in your future is being able to turn around and help those who you know or who request your knowledge in how to get past situations and relationships that are toxic and hurtful; those who just want to make the pain go away. You know it’s not an overnight fix, yet you’ll be there every step of the way until they reach the freedom they seek.

To your success,
PeggyLee

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Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live. 
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
Follow her at PeggyLeeHanson on Twitter and Facebook. You may also subscribe to her blog and newsletter.