Let me make this perfectly clear (insert smile here).
In serving you, my customer, a dis-service happens when I dis a service that may prove valuable to you. We are not all built alike, even though we may be like-minded.
It astonishes me when hearing someone selling a service or product, especially a course or seminar (no matter the modality its delivered in), that puts down an international establishment known for that same service, yet would be a helpful extension of the seller's offering.
For example, and this is just that, a member of the National Speaker's Association explains at a membership recruitment event that Toastmaster's International is a group where only memorized or rehearsed speeches are given; and you don't want that because you want to speak from your heart.
Another example might be where a psychologist says, "You don't need a psychiatrist because they can't help solve your problems like I can; besides, they might throw some voo-doo-woo-woo at you."
While not a psychologist or psychiatrist, I am an expert at helping the unemployed (or soon-to-be), the 40-to-50-something-aged (particularly women), move through their transition quickly and easily, and perhaps realize a dream or two in the process while becoming financially secure.
But if I believe that one of the psyche doctors can assist you, I will recommend them; they are an extension of what I do: help you become the person you want to be or to achieve the dreams and goals of your life.
It comes down to the Macy-Gimbles conundrum in the book/movie "Miracle on 34th Street." Macy's didn't carry a particular toy a customer was looking for so Kris Kringle sent her to Gimble's store where they did have the toy. Instant camaraderie, friendship, and most of all, respect was borne between the competitors out of that single selfless suggestion.
This may be more of a business post than an inspiring one, however, it is in words of encouragement and support -- of YOU.
Listen to your head and heart. The majority of what you're learning at events is great stuff -- hold on to that. But if the pang of a virtual arrow is felt in your gut when the host disses another person or organization, do yourself a service and examine closer why that might have been. Process those findings, retaining the good, throwing out the bad.
The choice is yours: light the match that burns the bridge, or light the way to span greatness.
“And I want this committee to understand that if we go down this road of putting people's hearts in play, and the only way you can have a good heart is, adopt my value system, we're doing a great disservice to the judiciary.” ~Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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