Jane and I had many similar interests and we lived nearby each other. Our husbands enjoyed each other’s company, too. We felt as if we were life-long friends.
One day, however, I decided to make an effort in getting along with Tasha, to be nice and smile at her; in short, to show more civility than she showed others – the “kill them with kindness” act. This did not bode well with Jane who displayed her displeasure by not only giving me the cold shoulder but also ended our friendship. Jane wouldn’t even allow me to explain my point of view, which was although I supported her, I had to figure out a way to save myself from the daily gnarly looks and gossip.
I was hurt and devastated. But while learning how to deal with the negative people in my life and any situation surrounding them, I began to also learn how to see the blessings in every situation, focusing on the positives received.
I began to see with Tasha what she brought to me – the chance to grow and learn more about myself. With Jane it was the opportunity to learn more about my job, enough to get a heralded promotion; and although we weren’t speaking, I did send her a note thanking Jane for sharing her expertise with me, which I felt was detrimental in being awarded the position.
Looking at a situation from the Blessings point of view will remove all disdain from your heart, making it easier to let go when it’s time to move on, and accepting the circumstances of now. Go ahead, give it a try. If you’re willing to share your results post them below.
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“I have about concluded that wealth is a state of mind, and that anyone can acquire a wealthy state of mind by thinking rich thoughts.”
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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