Well, for starters I turn into myself. What if I was the one apologizing or “coming clean”? What would I want from the person I wronged? What would I say?
Today is the 29th anniversary of my father’s death due to complications from Alzheimer’s. He was 62; I was 25 with a one-year old. I was sad not only at the physical loss, but also with the loss of the future. My daughter and future children were not going to know this wonderfully warm and funny man. And I wasn’t going to have the time with my dad that my older brothers and sisters had. I sincerely and angrily felt cheated.
Since my father’s passing I’ve experienced many lives cut short from illness or accidents. You know the saying, “Life is too short?” I’ve revamped it into a positive statement of “Life is precious” -- meaning, don’t waste a millisecond of it.
Get out and do what it is you want to do! Make your dreams come true! If you need help in doing so, there are many coaches like me who are waiting in the wings to assist you to accomplish, achieve, and attain them with support, strength, and self-reliance!
Now back to accepting the apology. Life is too precious to hold onto something that could ultimately choke me or stop me from receiving all that I can. If you’re familiar with the Laws of the Universe you understand what I mean. If you are unfamiliar with them, replace them perhaps with the laws of God.
I will intently listen to the apology, but it’s been so long since the grievance took place, I’ve processed through the situation and have made peace with this person internally. Perhaps it is now time to make peace outwardly.
It is what I would want had I wronged someone; it is what I have done.
Life is precious.
“A stiff apology is a second insult.... The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.” ~Gilbert Keith Chesterton