CAN’T YOU JUST BE NICE?????
I was on Twitter to leave a comment in the debate group when a post jumped off the screen and grabbed my attention out of the many on the page. The content of the message was a slam against the moderator’s body image. I was instantly incensed; however, I let the comment go.
I really try to stay off the social media sites during the debate telecasts; a few friends and relatives post very heated comments I don’t wish to see; and although I love them all dearly, I do not agree with them when it comes to politics, plus in some cases, religion. But that’s OK. If the world wasn’t made up of opposing thoughts we would not have many of the great products and services that currently exist.
Back in the 1990’s when dealing with a nemesis—actually I was learning how to be a better and stronger person—I put into motion the daily practice of not saying anything bad or derogatory about any one person or any one thing. I wish I could tell you if I thought this up all on my own or if it was from a great and wonderful book or article I read. Regardless, this action was the most important singular step I took towards increasing my own self-esteem. When I stopped being negative about my surroundings and the people in them, I stopped being negative and critical of myself.
Soon, my self-confidence seemed to rise, too. I increased the positive charge from the inside out. My efforts, as I look back, produced the result of being awarded a promotion; one not only of a pay increase, but one of prestige as well—I beat out my nemesis!
The other day, I shared with my readers a book I had been newly published in. One of the comments received mentioned how great it was for someone (me) to be able to share my celebration sans self-deprecation. My reply back was this is a learned skill, takes a lot of practice, and one that I intend on teaching in the very near future.
You see, it’s not about tearing someone else down; it has everything to do with building you up from the inside out.
The next post will continue this theme explaining how more opportunity and possibility enter our lives when being open to the idea and positive that so much good can happen.
To your success,
“Accustom yourself continually to make many acts of love, for they enkindle and melt the soul.” ~St. Teresa of Avila
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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