The other day I was watching (OK, mostly listening!) to a DVR replay of a morning talk show. The guests spoke of having a responsibility to open a door for someone who needs a bit of encouragement and support. After all, they had someone do it for each of them; it was the only right thing to do by paying the gesture forward.
I am in total agreement.
I’ve been lucky in life to have many who gave me a leg up or a chance to become the best I could be. Those people will always have a special place in my heart; for without them I would not be the person I am today. This includes people I didn’t like much at all and they didn’t like me either!
But let me speak about the ones who I did like and vice versa. My heart swelled when comments of praise and pride were received from them. I would be forever in their debt. Sidebar: I believe in positive attitude both in body and verbal languages. The last sentence above, I will now change to “They are forever in my heart.” I don’t like being in someone’s debt; it has a negative connotation and means I owe them something.
Deep friendships were created with a few of those who helped me most. And those same relationships ended because of my being needy. I needed to hear more praise. I needed to hear their voice daily. I needed … I needed….. I needed.
Each of these friendships lasted approximately five years and roughly ten years apart from one to the next; the pain of the loss was nearly unbearable. After the last and third loss, I decided it was high time to dig deeply down into my heart and soul to find out why these breakups kept happening to me.
The answers weren’t very telling at first; however, Oh. My. Goodness!
Have you ever heard the story about the man who fell in a hole? There are several versions of it. The following was written by Aaron Sorkin for episode #32, “Noel,” of the TV series, The West Wing.
"This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out.
"A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you. Can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on.
"Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, 'Father, I'm down in this hole can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on.
"Then a friend walks by, 'Hey, Joe, it's me can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before and I know the way out.'" *
The thoughts and words that were crowding in my brain needed to get out of my head and into a book. Why a book? Because I had to share what I found out with everyone who might have this same problem! The Acceptance Factor: To Serenity and Beyond was born (click the link to get a free download).
This book explains the process, the findings, new awareness, and tools to discover and accept situations for what they truly are. It is my most important book thus far. I am opening the door for you so your challenging relationships can mend before they are completely broken, showing you the way out.
Enjoy and Dream On!
“Success is an inner game just as much as it is an outer one.” ~Peggy Lee Hanson in The Acceptance Factor: To Serenity and Beyond
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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