People in your local networking group seem to be just as bad. What gives?
We’ve all been there.
If you are feeling a bit uncomfortable or increasingly frustrated with a Facebook group, another group you’re involved in, or even with your current friends, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them—or you…. it simply means you’ve grown! You’ve gained, perhaps, all the knowledge, wisdom, and tools you can get from your colleagues.
Growing pains are not just for kids!
Accepting growth using this concept makes transition easier when the more challenging times are upon you. By changing your thinking and belief system the twinges of uncomfortable become the sign it’s ready to move onto the next step or climb up to the next rung on the ladder.
But what if you suffer a misstep or slip down a rung? Wouldn’t it be better to stay where you’re at? Well, you could; but if you do remain in that same group your rate of growth—personal or professional—may be deterred, or even become stagnant.
No worries. You still have the knowledge, the expertise, and the will to continue on. But I believe what will also continue on is the increasing frustration with those who were once your friends and mentors.
A few years ago I was in a working relationship with one of my mentors. I learned so much from this person who gave me ME; however, I became increasingly aware and agitated by how this mentor seem to blame the non-success of events (aka, increasing the bottom line with dollars) on the very people who heralded this angel and did everything in their power to assist in making the events a success.
In order to not break the bond we once had and to keep the relationship on a good note, I chose to move on, to remove the source of my frustration. I knew that I had learned everything I needed to know from this person, and that it was time to take the next step, grabbing onto the higher rung of the ladder.
I’ve learned a long time ago when life keeps handing you the same outcome over and again, the problem exists within yourself. You must take time to explore the caverns within to determine and locate the tiny beast. Sometimes you may find fear; and sometimes you may find there is nothing except emptiness. Confront the issue and devise a plan to move forward.
The bridges you don’t burn now will later become the span of your futures.
I remember the growing pains of my childhood to this day; the pain in my legs was excruciating! I could do nothing but wait for the ache to pass and my body to grow. The pains of adulthood, however, I can do something about.
Are you experiencing growing pains? What are you doing to ease the pain? Will you take the flashlight into the dark recesses to find the source of agitation?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this concept.
To your success,
“Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.” ~Stephen R. Covey
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee has co-facilitated mastermind groups and appeared as a regular columnist for online communities. She is a member of Toastmasters International.
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