Interesting – and yet, so very true.
I like to follow what my friends and family are doing; however, when I see the accomplishments, the actions taken, I also see those I did not achieve.
What is actually happening is that my internal voice – or Ego – is rising up. It’s saying, “You are not doing what they are – why not? You should be!”
Ouch! And then the despair and the “not good enough” complex set in.
But because of the tools I’ve learned over the past years, of which I now teach my transitioners and dreamers, I can quickly and easily move past those feelings – for that is what they are – just feelings.
I answer the voice, “I am where I need to be. I don’t have to or should be anywhere else but where I am right now, right here. I am good. I am great. I am fine."
And then I go to work on the inner core, to find out why the voice came up in the first place. I’ve also learned that if I’m are not creating, if I’m not working my purpose, or in it, then I’m not happy or content.
Recently, Deepak Chopra was interviewed by Oprah Winfrey in his native land of India. Something Deepak said was so profound relating to tomorrow. Remember the adage, “Tomorrow never comes?” He explained this so eloquently and effortlessly, that it made perfect sense. I’ll paraphrase: if we constantly plan for the future and not be in the present, we will never be in the present when the future finally arrives – because we won’t know what is to be present, to be in the now, today.
I learn every day. I am learning how to be more present around my fellow humans; to listen more intently; to hear what they require; and to be present for them no matter if they are standing next to me or in a virtual chat room miles across the oceans.
What can you do to be more present? What is the smallest of next steps you can take toward achieving your dreams? What will you say to yourself and to your Ego to convince both you are good enough?
“If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up.”
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
PeggyLee is a Speaker, Best-selling author on Amazon.com, Certified Dream Coach® & Group Leader®, Trained True Purpose Coach®, and CEO and Founder of MyDreamArchitect.com, a subsidiary of Personal Transition Guidance, LLC. Also, Peggy Lee is co-facilitator and co-owner of the Coaches Circle Mastermind groups and is a regular columnist for the online community of DreamUniversity.com. She is a member of the International Coach Federation and Toastmasters International.
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