The evening following Christmas day I wrote on my personal Facebook page "... a little sad that people end the Christmas spirit on December 26; understand it's business, however....."
I received a few comments, and thankfully all of them had a bit of humor in them. But within an hour or so of posting the original comment, it dawned on me what was irking me so. (Chances are, if something is upsetting or getting under your skin, then the root of the problem generally may be deep-rooted -- in your self.)
Remember the adage "if you point a finger at someone, there are three more pointing right back at you?" Well, I never wanted to believe it, but now the evidence is so strong, it cannot be ignored any more!
The revelation that set in as to what was irking me, and the reason why is this: After nearly a week of writing letters, talking with old friends, being with family, cooking a great meal, giving and receiving gifts, there was a bit of a blue period going on -- much like the baby blues. I was having difficulty letting go of a cherished time.
So, now a question I have for myself is, "When else have you felt like this and what did you do to get past it?"
One key to moving on or forward is simply acknowledging how you feel and where you are at any given moment in the situation. And that's what I did in evaluating my Facebook comment. There have been numerous times when letting go has been an issue for me.
Is it still a struggle? You bet! However, because I became aware of what I do and how I react, I'm getting better at moving onward, upward, and forward.
Have I perfected my technique? Not in the least; it's an ongoing
process and learning opportunity each and every time. Hence, coming
out in a few months will be my next book, my first solo e-book,
"The Acceptance Factor," in which I'll attempt to explore and
explain this seemingly elusive phenomenon. (I'm so excited!!)
What questions would/do you ask yourself when performing a self-evaluation? What are your findings? Any surprises?
Life is amazing, isn't it?!?
“There is one evident, indubitable manifestation of the Divinity, and that is the laws of right which are made known to the world through Revelation.”
~Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
Peggy Lee Hanson, personal transition guide and mentor, is expert at compassionately helping those suffering loss of any proportion, especially through unemployment. Using proven strategies and support, she teaches how to move quickly and easily through current or impending life-changing moments so that you can have the life you are meant -- and deserve -- to live.
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